How’s it Going With Your Kids?

“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” -Charles Swindoll

Cora, an elderly widow, lived alone in a small three-room house down the dirt road from the Pennsylvania farm where I grew up. Her home, a bit run down outside, was full of joy and delight on the inside.

Interestingly, Ms. Cora’s favorite treasures were a collection of “china tea cups.” Some of them had been handed down for generations. Others she had added to her collection as she could. She cherished each and every one, and kept some of them in a special antique china cabinet. The rest were displayed proudly all throughout her house.

Often I would catch her sipping tea alone, reminiscing of days gone by, while listening to her old fashioned radio. So much of her life and her heritage were tied into those china tea cups.

Psalm 127:3 ESV says, “…children are a heritage from the Lord” The same Hebrew word for heritage, nachalah, is also used of God’s people Israel in Psalm 28:9 ESV “Oh, save your people and bless your heritage.”

Strong’s Concordance describes Israel as God’s “special possession for whom He cared and watched over as belonging only to Him.”

Your children are YOUR heritage. A special, unique possession, given to you by God. A treasure for you to provide for and watch over. They are “fine china” from God.

Most importantly, every child needs at least one person in their life who is crazy about them!

It is our job to make sure our children know they are cherished and cared for. We have a God-given mandate to nurture them. To love them. To be there for, and with them.

In today’s hectic, insane world, how do we do this?

Here are some “SUPER T’s” that have helped me stay close to my own children.

Time — Kids spell love T-I-M-E. Quality and Quantity time. There is no substitute for you.

Touch — Holding hands, brushing hair, wrestling to high fives, loving touches every day.

Talk — You sent a message to your child today, whether you were present or not – by what you said, or didn’t say. And remember, communication is more non-verbal than verbal.

Tenderness — You know whether or not you are close to your child’s heart. Every parent does. It’s in our DNA. Learn the way he or she gives and receives love and overdose them with the tender love they need and want.

Teaching — You are always teaching something to your child. I love 3 John 1:4 ESV “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth” . Most “life lessons” are caught… and taught!

Tenacity — Even when they aren’t very lovely. When they aren’t fun to be around. When they disappoint us — even defy us. Stay the course. Never quit. Your presence, your love, your influence is everything!

Bill Cosby once said, “I have chosen to be involved in the lives of my children…”

Choose to cherish your children as your heritage from the Lord. His treasures. Fine china tea cups from God.

Just watch what happens. It will turn their lives around.

Posted on: June 4, 2014, 5:02 a.m.