A Love Like That

God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organization developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God. -Max Lucado

We must never be naive enough to think of marriage as a safe harbor from the Fall, The deepest struggles of life will occur in the most primary relationship affected by the Fall: marriage. -Gary Thomas

When we read the account of creation in Genesis, we find that at the end of each day God looked over His work and “saw that it was good” (Genesis 1:10, 12, 18, 21, 25)

There was however one exception; after God created man He declared, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18 ESV)

What’s interesting is that after creating the woman, God looked at Adam and Eve and saw that His work was not just good – it was very good” (Genesis 1:31)

Love in marriage is the culmination and crowning point of God’s creation.

The writer of Hebrews reflects this divine image of matrimony when he writes, “Marriage is honourable in all…”(Genesis 13:4 KJV)

The Greek word for honourable – timios – means held as of great price, esteemed, precious. It is the same word used to describe precious stones like diamonds, rubies and emeralds.

But anything with that potential for beauty, also has incredible potential for pain and brokenness.

You don’t have to go very far in the Bible – Genesis 2 to Genesis 3 – to learn that the enemy of our souls has unleashed all of his power and strength to steal, kill and destroy our relationship with God and each other!

In many homes, it seems that he is winning the war.

Bliss has turned into brokenness.

A golden wedding ring feels like a “band of bondage”.

And it seems that everything in life competes for our affection in love and marriage.

It’s easy to find ourselves empty and exhausted – just trying to get by.

When someone challenges us to be “ravished” with one another’s love, (Proverbs 5:19 KJV) honestly, it feels more like ravaged, than ravished.

One discusses – one distances.

One rages – one disengages.

One escalates – one escapes.

And relief rarely comes.

How do we stop the insanity?

In basketball, when a player is struggling with his shot, a good coach will move him to the foul line to focus on the fundamentals of shooting.

Likewise, in relationships, we need to get back to the heart of it all – love!

You may have lost that “loving feeling”. Remember, loving is a choice. A choice you make every day.

Let’s go back to Genesis for a moment. After God created the man and the woman, He gave a life-long guideline for every marriage. “Therefore shall and man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24 KJV)

Leave and cleave…

Leave – a choice to “leave behind“… “abandon“… “forsake“…

Cleave – a choice to be “joined together as with glue“…

The result is found in the last phrase of this verse – “they shall become one flesh.”

The concept in the Hebrew language is that a man and a woman then become so united that they are literally woven together as one. And the union cannot be divided without wounding both individual parts.

A bond of intimacy (in-to-me-see) so strong that there is no fear in their love. Only a freedom to love, and to be loved.

It’s the simple joy of knowing there is someone who wants to kiss my face. Someone to hold my hand. Someone to be one with me.

Love each other like that.

It will turn your marriage around.

Posted on: Feb. 14, 2014, 1:34 p.m.